I’m Monique, I don’t have a nickname sorry. I am a Texas girl with a heart just as big. I am a divorced mom of 3 kids ages 11, 5 , and 2. They have given me more joy than I could ever ask for. But the truth is no one told me that there would be just as many times I felt like a failure and doubted my own abilities. I always thought that I was supposed to have it all together and all figured out all the time and I don’t.
I really don’t have it all together!!! Not by a long shot! I work full time and juggle raising my kids oh and our 80 lb rottweiler! I am a college grad, but I will tell you nothing I learned could have prepared me for this journey of mommyhood. I want to share all the knowledge I have accumulated over the years with each of you. You have something in you that drove you here today and I know you might feel alone, but you aren’t. Life is about what we make of it and getting through our troubles and challenges while learning from them and helping someone else. Pay it forward!
Being divorced felt like torture. Sharing my kids with another person was madness. dealing with societies view of single moms the least of my concerns!!!!
I have a daughter that started having seizures at 7 months old…Let that sink in. My beautiful perfect baby girl had to have surgery on her brain at a year old only after routine testing to determine the cause of her seizures. (She’s doing great now)
I mention this, not for you to feel sorry for me, but so you know that none of us have the perfect life or circumstances. We work with what we have and one of the most important things I have learned in life is to be grateful for everything. So grateful that my daughter can walk and talk and scream at the top of her lungs.
For me, the alternative would be not having her at all. I’m grateful for the tantrums because it means my kids have their own opinions and pretty decent lungs! I try to see the good in every situation even though it’s extremely hard a lot of the time.
I have learned to put me first. I have learned to be independent. I have learned to manage my money. I have learned to pick my battles with my kids. I have learned how to be a good friend. I have learned how to have 3 different conversations at the same time and respond to each! I have learned how to do kid projects like a kid!! The list goes on…
My purpose is very simple
I have learned that in all my imperfections I am a great mom! Mostly organized, but sometimes scatterbrained. And that’s OK.